Honesty Is The Best Policy

Honesty is the best policy and the only way any of us can heal.

Before I could get well and let co of my co-dependent nature, I had to accept and acknowledge the extent of my illness.  I had to get honest with myself.  I evaluated my actions, or in my case, inaction, as I had no boundaries.

I was a walking doormat, never speaking up and I was miserable.  On the flip side, I was busy presenting an image of dishonesty, portraying someone I thought the world wanted me to be.  And finally,  when I did speak up, it was usually in a bullying fashion, trying to maintain  some perceived  control.

The one I hurt the most was myself, suffering in denial that anything was wrong, isolating and reviewing for hours my huge resentments and licking my wounds, forever the victim.

Today, I treasure the progress I have made building healthy boundaries with friends and family.  Being honest with them means really being myself, exposing and disclosing my true persona, knowing I am good enough just the way I am.

In closing, I want to share a quote with you that helped me a lot:

We aren’t meant to be perfect,
We are meant to be whole

— Jane Fonda

Have an awesome weekend!!