Part Three Feeling Overwhelmed Series: Boundaries

In part one we became aware of a problem or behavior that needs changing, after all we cannot change something we are oblivious to. In part two we began to love ourselves a little, to build some confidence, to put ourselves first. If we don’t value ourselves, we can’t take care of ourselves. Now in part three we need to set some boundaries.

Most of us have lived with very little if any boundaries and as a result, we have been door mats most of our lives. There is an old saying that you can’t change anyone but I am here to tell you from experience that if we change our behavior or the way we react to things, then others will respond differently and thus they change. So in essence people change by your change.

Setting healthy boundaries is taking care of yourself. Do not be surprised if at first you get flack from some people. We do not have to control their reactions and at first it will be more than uncomfortable but continue anyway. Some people do not want us to change. People, most people fear change because it is unknown territory, if you change then they have to change. They will see you responding differently and they may try to convince you to stay the way you are but don’t. Take good care of yourself by setting healthy boundaries. You will never regret it and it will be a huge boost to your confidence level. And the flack will always die down.

Stay tuned as we wrap up the series next week and until then have a blessed week.

FRAN